The # close - No matter how good the conversation is going, it must end sometime. Either she has to go or you have to go or you just feel you can't
keep it up at the same heights anymore and need to stop before you stall (good move). So what are the best ways of closing? A close by the way is not a "Bye, it was nice meeting you", you'll have to extract something out of your interaction with the girl, either her phone-number, a promise for a new meeting, a kiss, better yet - all of those things :). Otherwise you have just wasted your time with her. Remember, your time is important, so certainly, if you're there talking to her, its an investment in her! Here are a few examples on how to close.
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You: "Why don't we continue this somewhere else and see how much we can enjoy each other's company?"
In response she might offer a change of venue (if she mumbles "your place or mine?", then boy! either she's real easy or you're real good:), but more probably she's gonna offer a phone number so the two of you can set up a meeting later over the phone. Notice, that YOU DIDN'T ASK for her phone number, it was HER IDEA to give it to you, thus framing you in her mind very differently from when you would have asked for the number. The first instance creates in her mind a picture of "I gave him my number which must mean I like him" while the second creates an opposite picture of "He asked for my number which must mean he likes me yawn, yeah he's nice, next!":)
You: "So..what steps would we have to take in order to make sure we can talk together again?" If a change of venue is highly unlikely, this one is a more direct wake-up call for her to usher you her number.
You: "I have an intuition and I don't know if you can imagine this as I describe it that when we get a chance to talk without time pressures or interruptions we'll really enjoy each other's company (presupp) and I'm wondering if there's a number where you feel comfortable having me call you?"
Again you didnt ask for HER number, but "A" number, big difference guys.
"Let's do xxx together. I'll call you"
"But you don't have my number!"
"Oh that's right! (pull out a pen)Here's my pen."
You: "Well... now that we've set up a meeting, there's a question you need to ask me."
You: "Oh come on!"
Girl: "What's your phone number?"
Just abruptly look at your watch if you're wearing one, or if you don't have one ask for the time right in the middle of your conversation. Once you get the time make up an excuse that you have to go right away. Be polite and tell her how much you enjoyed this conversation and that it was your pleasure to meet someone like her and walk away.
Just as she will be all confused about what is going on, wondering if she said something to offend you or if perhaps you don't like her because you didn't ask her out or you didn't even ask for her phone number, come back as though you forgot something and say:
"You know what? If we ever wanted to do this again, and laugh and have a good time together we don't even know how to get a hold of each other. And that would be such a tragedy. It would be a definite loss for me, but perhaps if you think about it and realize how much you enjoy having intriguing conversations, laughing and having a good time, you will know that it would be a loss for you too. So, what do you figure we should do about it?"
The answer is obvious. But if she doesn't offer you her phone number right now while you still maintain this sense of urgency as you have to leave, ask her for it directly."
If however you don't have the time / can't come up with anything to construct a situation for her to offer you her number, or you have offered all sorts of opportunities ("So what should we do in order for us to be able to continue this discussion some other time?" "Um... I dunno?") but she just doesn't take the hint - ask for her number directly.
"I don't mean to be direct, but can I have your phone number."
"You can't leave...You haven't given me your phone number yet!"
"Give me your number", then hand a pen and a notebook (that simple?:).
Refining the close
When you do the #close, don't just trade numbers, leave her with something funny to laugh about. That way, the last thing she will remember about you is you making her laugh. Say something like.."When I call you, are you sure there aint gonna be any big guy answering your phone going 'HALOOO' (and smile)?", which will make her smile too. Or you can say something like "But when I call I don't want you to answer "Huh? Who? Ah… its you… ee… so… howzit going…", I want you to act really enthusiastic and happy, like "Oh, you called! God I'm so glad!!", ok? Is that a deal?:)" This ends the close on a very light, friendly and positive note plus automatically kick-starts the phone call on that very same note:) Additionally you can end the phone call in the same manner: "So when we meet, I want you to smile, give me a big warm friendly hug and take my hand:) Deal:)?" End the phone call and start the meeting with these and you'll have removed many an obstacle from your path to being one with the girl:)
A powerful way to get her to give her the # is to do a "reframing" piece, that is, talk about how we meet very interesting people once in a while and have such great times but never get to keep in touch bla bla bla..... all the time making sure she's agreeing with you. So when time came to give you her # shes reframed already :)
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(when a girl is in a rush)
"I understand you're in a hurry... I'm in a hurry as well... But what a lot of people don't understand is that time constraints are an illusion... I mean... you don't HAVE to leave right now... There will be another cab (or something else, depending on the situation)... Let's finish this (exchange numbers)."